One thing that I’m having a hard time with is how to deal with the OM. Do I even bother or just make myself be the better option? I have his phone number. It’s probably best to leave it alone and work on myself.
I don’t know. I’ve heard the W talk about him in the past since he was her HS sweetheart. She basically told me that she used to walk all over him. That makes me wonder if I asked him to buzz off if that might work. With my luck, it would probably backfire.
Patience…leave it alone. It will burn out. It will not get me closer to my goal.
I just answered my own question, but I'd still like some input if anyone else has confronted OM.
Don't confront the OM; don't dignify or legitimize him in that way. If you want to confront someone, confront your wife, but confronting OM is generally a poor idea.
Also, affairs are highly addictive -- they don't just "burn out" on their own very often. Think about it: what other addiction that you know of (alcohol, drugs, alcohol, porn, etc.) does anything other than ESCALATE over time?
