I think you've done very well to recognize how various of your reactions can be categorized as rescuing, claiming victimization or persecuting. As for your final question, it's only the actions which perpetuate keeping in one of these positions that keep you in the triangle; getting off the triangle does not actually result in paralysis, but in feelings of relief and freedom.
Getting off the triangle could be equated with achieving detachment or with with ending co-dependence, since you have gained control of your fears and emotions. Don't worry, you'll get there in the end--for now, I think it's good to ask yourself whether you're trying to get certain results from acting from one of the positions, and whether you really need those "secondary gains."
