While the MLCer may be surrounded by all the tools he might ever need, the problem is that a depressed person literally cannot see that he is depressed. He feels so despairing and dead inside that he starts looking around to see who could be sucking the joy out of him like that. At the same time, he feels so dead and numb inside that he doesn't have the energy to "make things better."
I know that you feel as though your H is deliberately hurting you, but he's more like a drowning man clutching at his rescuers and pulling them down with him because he can't see an escape from his misery.
Don't let yourself be pulled in by the drowning man. I hope you are continuing to treat yourself very well today and can find some peace.
