If I knew what to make of it I would write a book myself and make millions!
I just mentioned in my thread a similar thing, all of our interactions are like things are normal!!! I guess it is because what we have here is a WAS that is moving on with their lives, and an LBS that is at the least pretending like they are moving on with their lives. Together, no conflict, everything is at peace.
I have to admit, while I feel like I am doing well concentrating on myself, of course I know I am still faking it when I am talking to my W. Everything is not normal for me, but that is how I act. I am guessing that is true for most of us here. If we were truly detached, if we did not want things to be different, we probably would not be here. So that is our journey. Find ourselves, help ourselves, deal with an incredibly sad, terrible and painful situation in the best way we know how.
It is hard, it is confusing, it will test our patience probably more than any other thing we do in our lives. What I can try to do is find solace in that. Feel good about myself for dealing with such a terrible situation in a positive way. I think we all need to remind ourselves of that. We are all very strong and determined people. If we were not, we would be taking the easy way out. Trust me, this is NOT the easy way out.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
