Sitting at home with myself.

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Navy, tread lightly. I don't think there is anything wrong with going to them and letting them know that you still want to stay in the M and do what is best for the kids and the family. But, don't elaborate or beg, plead or cry. Just assure them that you are not OK with what is going on and that you are willing to do what is best for your M and your family. And, just leave it at that. Remember, whatever you say to them will get to your W. EVERYTHING!

I don't know if you have kept up with my sitch from the beginning, but my FIL (who has been one of my very best friends for 15 years) turned on me a couple of weeks ago. Remember, blood is thicker than water, ALWAYS.

But, I don't think there is anything wrong with briefly letting them know that your family is the most important thing in the world right now. JMO.

BITS never walk alone!!!

FOBD

I am glad you wrote this, because I have been experiencing the same thing. In my situation, my W has prevented me from speaking to her parents all together. I was even surprised that they never contacted me. I believed my wife that they were horribly embarrassed and humiliated by her actions. I just wanted to talk to them and tell them that, however horrible this has been, I am completely committed to saving our marriage and will do anything for their daughter and their grandson.

My wife and the advice on this board has talked me out of this. They think that the family relationship is one I should stay out of, no matter how strong I think my relationship is with them.

Just hard not to reach out in the slightest, but I will stick with the advice her and avoid it for now.

My exact sentiment. I so wanted to contact my W's family and talk to them. Oddly though there's been 0 contact from them. I called and talked to MIL twice. Seems like they have just given up or supporting her, but they never got back. So i gave up on them helping our marriage. Some days i wish my W's family help her see how she's destroying the family fabric. But sometimes i wonder if they are actually fueling the fire.