Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

My house is flopped. It is worth $20,000 less than when it was bought 5 years ago and because we financed everything like many young couples 5 years ago I can't refinance until I get it down another $6000 so like another 4 years. Now I can afford the house on my own, but H wants to stay on in case I ever want to get rid of it. Like if I get remarried or buy something else or can't afford it then he wants dibs and if he signs off he won't get that. Right now we have it that if I have to sell we split everything which I feel is fair until I refinance.

I just think if he wants to stay on the deed "just in case" then he needs to pay something to me to stay on because I am footing the whole bill and have been since Apr 2009. If he wants part of it then he has to pay.

BeingMe-we have our lawyers and mine is a lisenced mediator so we would have just all sat down, but H doesn't want to spend the extra money or miss a day of work (I think he also finally wants this over with like I do...just wondering why now all the sudden? He always wanted a D, but was dragging his feet at the beginning. Now my concern, but a little curious). Everything is getting put in writing so I don't get hosed and neither does he.