Just an update; not much new to report. Still just focusing on asking for what I need when and if I need something; noticed too that I seem to be talking more with him. Not just about deeper, meaningful stuff, but about anything really. Even goofy thoughts or comments that I would have held back before in fear that it sounded silly. It feels a little odd to me to be talking so much these days (IDK, maybe it's the ADs?), but whatever the 'why', I think it's a good thing. And I think he likes it.
We had a number of very busy weeks in the last month, where we'd just see each other over breakfast and then just before bed. It started making me nervous and worried that it would lead to more disconnect. And then he was so tired he bailed on a date night. So at first, I did my usual 'retreat and withdraw'. Which - you guessed it - didn't help either of us. But the next day I finally opened up. I just told him about my fears around it without either blaming him or being critical of myself for wanting the connection. And, it led to some good discussions about how we BOTH realized how important our date nights were in keeping the connection happening - particularly when life got very busy.
Oh! We need cheap date night ideas! Anyone with suggestions?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
