H takes all the blame - why?

[angel61]

Just thinking here.... sometimes we all don't want to get off the triangle due to what we see as secondary gains. Being the victim obviously has the most to gain in terms of sympathy, that is why maybe I try to be one as well. also, it is a rest from needing to be the rescuer.

To get out of this I have to stop being the rescuer. My rescue instincts are again on high at this point. I have to be careful though that I don't swing on to the other side and become a persecutor just because I can't rescue.... I see now why I have to get off the triangle. Next time I do something or want to do or say something I will ask myself if it si being a victim, persecutor or rescuer. I am wondering though if all actions can be classified into one of these, for fear that getting off the triangle will end up in a paralysis....