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[Queen_of_Swords]

Frustration = Anger.
You're angry and have every right to be.
What's under that anger though?

What expectations and messages ( what ego bruises are being pressed ) are you getting from your anger?

Is it " I can't understand anything." Where the expectation of yourself is that you should always understand, take charge, be decisive and initiate action? This core expectation of oneself usually triggers feelings of frustration and confusion.

Then the question becomes is that a reasonable expectation for you to have of yourself?

Or is it " I can't handle this. " Where the expectation is that you should always be courageous, confident, brave, strong and a good role model. This core expectation of oneself usually triggers feelings of fear and anxiety.

or is it " You aren't being fair." Where the expectation is that others should always be prompt, honest and reasonable toward you, they should respect you. This core expectation of oneself usually triggers feelings of disappointment and discouragement.


Then the question becomes is that a reasonable expectation for you to have of yourself?

Break it down. What are you really feeling?