I agree with PEI. Now is the time for you to think about YOU and look at yourself, decide what kind of person you want to be. Make those changes.
I know in retrospect the importance of detaching. It would have been disastrous if I had pushed anything. I had to let H's A run its course. It wasn't until recently that I became resentful of his cake eating. We are now in a safe enough place (9 months out) that we are able to talk about it calmly. Some good healing for me has begun. So it does happen. I couldn't believe it when I was where you are now. We all know you are in a very painful place.
You mentioned that you are not working and that has been a stress and resentment for your H. Have you thought about getting a job, even a fun one to get you out, occupy your time...etc? That may be a 180 for you.
It's a loooooong process should you decide to stand for your M. This is not for sissies.
MZ
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
