Does anyone have insight on what I should be doing at this point? How should I be when he is at home. More distant but cordial. I want him to realize I am pulling away and let him know his behavior is not ok, I have said it but that does not matter to him. I know actions speak louder. I want to save my marriage and the what I have been doing is not working. Being friendly, acting happy, no r talks, changing behaviours he had complaints about. He is just getting closer to ow.