Piecing is almost harder than before...

[Bolt]

It's been a week since the V-Day card thing and me really backing off and stopping all pressure. And man, I can REALLY feel a good vibe in the relationship. It's sorta weird for me to say that because I'm a pretty concrete, fact-based guy and this is just a feeling. Nothing tangible, nothing that I can put on a chart or graph and say "see it's 2.3% better than yesterday", but it just feel that way. Really good interactions with W. I feel like we are "just being". I'm still (over) analyzing everything, but that's just me and I keep it to myself.

Last night W after work, I picked up the kids and we met wife out for dinner. I swear it felt like she was leaning in to kiss me hello and then backed off. Maybe my mind, maybe not. She didn't kiss me, but I think she almost did. I didn't react at all. Old me (like a week ago) would have leaned towards her, then she would have kissed my cheek, but I think only to be polite. She want's this, she can come get it. I know she can't hold out much longer. And I'm here to tell you, the gettin' will be good when she does.

Anniversary in 2 weeks. Got to not F that up.

-x

Dear shadow of mine - I mean xyz - holy crap! That's exactly where I am. I can FEEL that we are getting a ton better and that EXACT same thing happened yesterday! She actually leaned in to kiss me and I just let her. I usually would have leaned back but didn't. It was a little kiss but it was there.

I've said exactly what you've said too - like she's holding back. Didn't you say an invisible hand? I can see that too!

Your attitude is right on too. It will be MUCH better in a few weeks when it does happen. I feel that way as well. I can wait for it because it will be SOOOO much better then.

It feels like we've turned a corner BUT we have to maintain focus and continue to grow.

Let's also not get TOO ahead of ourselves with expectations. I'm trying to stay in that high but not too high mode. Just let things progress.

I know I've touted this book like I wrote it but I didn't - Hold Me Tight - it's been a true eye opener just like DR was for getting my W back...

definitely check it out.