Therapy went well last night. I told my therapist that I think I am ready for a little more feedback in our sessions. The first several have been me telling a story for 98% of the time. I have come to a place inside myself where I am ready to vent and panic less and listen more. He understood that, and he agreed that we should start two way conversations more. Cool.
As far as the prep for couples therapy tonight. He mentioned that if the wife wants to move out and has a new job, it would be a good idea to split accounts for now. He said that I should present this but not the splitting of the cell phone and insurance quit yet. He said a little at a time. Throwing it all on her right now could send her in a panic.
I don't want my wife to come back and live at home because she can't afford to live on her own. I want to give her the opportunity to see what it's like for her to live on her own, and come back, because she truly wants to. I think the cell phone and insurance is just enough to really make it impossible for her.
Still trying to detach. Just a bit hard when you have a baby boy going back and forth. There are is lots of communication going back and forth about him. I have, although, stopped the texts and calls to check in. Also stopped doing the little favors for her. I am working on it.
Need to also work on my confidence and keeping my emotions in check. There have been a few times in the last few weeks where I have broken down in front of my wife. The last was after our last therapy when she mentioned getting her own place. I need to stop this. As mentioned on here before, crying is not an action that shows self-confidence and strength. I have always considered my self an emotional person, but I have never been the sobbing kind. How can I prevent this?
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
