First I know every situation is different. But I'm seeing a lot of different things and trying to square that with my own feelings.
It's the same issue that has plagued us in some form or another - lack of physical affection including ML and the ILYs.
On one hand, a lot of people here share the same experience in that the WAS doesn't initiate affection in the early stages of piecing. With some variation. Bolt's W, I think does some physical affection, but not ILYs. XYZ gets the ILYs, but no physical touching of any kind. I get very limtied physical interaction no ILYs (she says in other ways), but my W very committed to us working. No mention of D or S in a b out 3 months.
On the other hand, other people I know are baffled by my W's behavior in this regard. MY IC, who also works with couples, doesn't know what to make of it. Another friend, who is going through her own marital issues, and who I chat with about this says that the affection piece is still in here M, but no ML. She says she doesn't understand my W either.
Lastly I know how I feel. At times, it feels like a rejection, I feel lonely and I crave her touch at times other times I'm cool with just having her in the same room. The times that are bad cause me to get mad about to or hurt.
Is it okay to feel this way? Or am I being a completely selfish jerk? Should I ever bring this up to our MC? Do you have concerns you back off so much that you lose feelings for your W? Or the constant rejection from her makes you resent her.
How long is too long to wait? I mean I'd say I've been in some form of piecing for 3 months. I am just confused.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
