I agree with Sage that Pam's advice is invaluable.
From what you said, you've identified your behavior that you know doesn't work at all. You realize what has happened to get your M where it is. Pam is so right. Your H may not be making any effort, but he isn't trying to destroy the sand castle either.
Stop worrying about H and start having fun like you used to. Get active again. That was the woman that he fell in love with. If you become that woman again, then I'd say the chances are way up there that he'll become the man you fell in love with again.
You are a worthy, wonderful, strong, beautiful, loving woman. Determine to stay out of the cheeseless tunnel. Remember that God is right there with you. When you get tired, ask Him to give you His strength and to hold you up and help you get your footing back. He will. Marriage honors Him and He wants your marriage to be a good one.
What are your plans this weekend? It sounds like you like to do so many things. Enjoy yourself and, more importantly, enjoy being with "yourself".
