She finally disclosed that her feelings were hurt that people were being indifferent to her at the dance convention. She had hopes of connecting to people. ...
It took her a day to disclose this to me. I didn't know. She never gave me a chance to help her with this until a day later. She was looking for kindness from me, but instead saw me as another person rejecting her and disappointing her.
Hi CL, it's been a while since I posted on your thread but I've been reading along and cheering on your progress.
I just had a thought about this I wanted to share with you. It's possible that it took her so long to disclose that to you because she didn't even know that there was something underneath her anger and venting. I used to do that a lot. First came the anger, and only then could I understand and feel the pain that beneath it.
So I think it's a definite good sign that she did finally reveal her true fears and insecurities about the dance convention to you, even if it was a day late. That's how my process went too. It took me a while before I could identify the hurt and distorted self-beliefs that were underlying my anger. Sometimes it took a day or two. But the important thing is, is that she's seeing and sharing what was underneath it.
How did she end up feeling after she finally revealed her hurts to you? Hopefully, she found it to be a positive experience and relieved some of her fear and pain. If so, I bet that 'delay' will grow shorter and shorter as she continues to open up.
Good for you for excusing yourself and taking the dog for a walk! FMV.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
FMV.