Ummm, well... from what I have read no X ever comes running back committed 100%. It's seems like it is a very slow process in bits and pieces and a challenging one at that. That it's one step forward and many steps backward. I guess the fact that he is not running away is a positive sign BUT as you have pointed out yourself...caution is what is needed. As you also know, you really can't do much about the situation except protect yourself with boundaries that only you know.
I would suggest to just continue with all the DB stuff. GAL, be positive around him, no pursuing and acting as if. He knows you would love your family put back together. Remember this is all about him. He has to do the work himself. As you also wrote...you don't want to be his fallback because it's easy.
I have been really good since my kids have left on Thursday. My kids phoned me at the airport just as they were getting on the plane. I spoke to the kids and when we were done I just hung up the phone. I did not talk to my X at all. I never gave her the chance to even talk to me.
Then yesterday the most bizarre thing happened. I received an email from my mother-in-law. My in laws are on the trip in Africa with my X. In fact their whole family is there on a big safari. My MIL sent me a photo of my kids and X on their safari. There was no title in the subject line of the email and no note with the photo. Initially I was very upset. How could my MIL be so insensitive that I might be hurting that I am sitting here while my family is off on some dream vacation. I spoke to my mother who suggested that maybe my MIL was not feeling too good about the situation either. All I wrote back to the MIL was "cute, love to all"
My MIL has never sent me anything.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
