Success would be having a happy and healthy marriage again someday!
I have my personal goals as well, but those I know I can control, so they are easier to define and execute. This process IS about M after all, so I do not think that having goals based on certain things I would like to see from my W as inappropriate.
The way I see DB'ing is you understand you only control your own actions, but you also realize how those actions affect others. We look back and see how our negative actions affected our M's, DB'ing is about replacing those actions with positives to move it in the other direction.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
