Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

Talked to H for 2 hours yesterday because he doesn't want mud slinging and wants this to be cordial and not pay for mediation. We agreed to H having S starting in March Friday and Saturday night and he will get a partial credit because he is at his parents. When H decides to take S to his place (yes he finally admitted to living with OW) he will have to change his address with teh courts adn at that time also file for less child support, which to me is fair.

The tax thing he is still not sure about. I told him about not being able to claim child care and other things for me when he does claim S so now he is thinking to just let me have it all the time.

On the house, he said that he figured with his L that I should be able to refinance no problem in 4 years...yeah if the economy doesn't take a down trend again and if I have a little extra and... He said he has not problem with splitting everything 50/50 if I have to sell, but now he is thinking about not signing the deed waiver. Why? In case I don't want the house he has claim to it, but doesn't that go against him wanting me to refinance so quickly and digging his heels in about it? Either you want to help pay for the house or not, but if he is still on the house and won't sign it over I want something saying he will help pay for it or help take care of it or soemthing. I don't know if that is possible, but it doesn't seem right.

Other than that I had S instead of H this weekend because he "wrote down teh date wrong" and had plans. HIs plans were to go to Medieval Times with OW. How do I know? I have friends who also went there and saw them. Funny thing is that instead of H introducing OW, she hid and kept out of sight until they went inside. Pretty cheesy. I feel sorry for her because she feels she has to hide. I am sorry, but if I were her and I would want to be introduced to people.

Lastly I told H that if he is serious with OW, it would be good to start introducing her to S because he should have some say if he doesn't like her. Also it would be good for S to know OW before he has to spend time always the three of them. I did tell H that I don't recommend S spending the night with H and OW because I don't want him to learn immorale habits. Hanging out together is one thing, but for S to learn it is ok to live together before you are married (something I am against and H used to be against) I don't want S to learn by example it is ok. Plus I told H that S needs his own room before he goes to their place so he has his own space.

I think I am being reasonable.

Anyway taht is all for now. Finals this week and then going away with S for the weekend for our Youth Convention. My first chance to go "guy hunting". Not that I am a lot, but it is a chance for the to look amazing and see if there is anything out there.