My wife dropped the ILYBINILWYA bomb on 10/10 and said she had gone emotionally numb in April 2010 as a way to protect herself from pain caused by my emotional distance from her. She felt that I hadn't been showing attention/affection for many months and I hadn't been doing all the things needed to keep her happy and this damaged her self-esteem and made her unhappy in general. She lost her job in 4/2009 and has been unemployed since, but has started going back to school to enter health care industry. She has always been a very social person and has many close friends (both male and female)and she has always managed the social calendar during our M. Since becomming unemployed, she has devoted much time to Facebook and going out 2-3 times per week while I stay w/kids. She says going out with friends is only thing that keeps her happy and sane. I have trust issues from her EA in 2006, and the fact that she tells me she has rekindled friendships with guys from her past that she could possibly have a happy future with.
I have just read DB and have started my 180. I stopped calling/texting all the time to check up on her, and I'm starting to work on GAL. We still get along well at home, especially around the kids, but we haven't had a R talk in weeks and weeks. Should I bring it up?
Me 45 W 43 Married 16 years S 14 D 11 (down syndrome) 10/2010 ILYBNILWY W EA 3/2006
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
