Starsky, Thinking in terms of setting boundaries with my W can be overwhelming. I would be reacting to every act of poor behavior she does. I don't want to enter "her world" because she's not in a good place at this time, but is trying to climb out of it.
Boundaries are important, but I want my mindset to go beyond that. I don't want to police every annoying word or phrase or mood. I don't want to put my energy there.
CL
Suit yourself, CL. But I'd recommend that you consider two things:
1. It's not working your way -- her boorish behavior continues; and
2. With effective boundary-setting (and -enforcement), you don't HAVE to do it all of the time. The enforcement corrects the behavior (sometimes doesn't end it COMPLETELY, but probably 90% of it).
Are walking on these egg shells constantly any way to go thru a marriage . . . or a life?
You don't need to "go Neanderthal," but a simple-but-firm "You know, I was trying to be kind, to let you sleep in. I really don't appreciate you biting my head off. Next time, maybe you can just get your own Egg McMuffin. I'm going to go grab a shower, and then we'll get going."
Or something similar.
Women want a man that can call them on their b.s. sometimes. It's healthy for BOTH sexes to do that for each other from time to time. By constantly appeasing her and supplicating, you are KILLING her attraction to you, in my opinion.
