Outstanding H, F, F, L, P

[Busting Mode]

So last night we talked for about 45 minutes, then texted for another 30 minutes this morning.

I managed to calm things down a bit between us and now practicing to be prepared, to take things as they come, to be patient and not to force anything, and not to worry about things that haven't actually happened yet.

This one is important. To be prepared and not to worry about things that haven't happened.


Right now I am remembering my climber's debrief training. I learned this while climbing Mt. Rainier years ago:

"What. So What. Now What?"

What happened was:

I waited for her response.
I let her decide when we would talk again.
I prepared for the conversation with a syntax (plan) to keep me focused, flexible and receptive.
I called her at the time she said.
I followed my plan.
We asked each other how we were feeling.
We agreed that we had been having some good conversations lately up until my pushing her again.
I told her..

"In this call what I want is a greater understanding of where each other is at, and what each other is really going through right now"

She agreed that would be okay.
I asked her...

"Is there anything you feel I'm not understanding right now?"

She said she wasn't sure. "Just some kind of a feeling" she guessed. Then Io offered and she allowed me to tell her what I understand about where she's at and what she's going through.

I nailed it. Fired off a bunch of things with pinpoint accuracy describing everything she felt and asked her if there was anything I missed.

She said "No. That's everything."

Then I asked if she could tell me what she understood about where I am at and where I am going through.

"I guess I'm not really sure" she said, why don't you tell me?

And then I began to tell her.

That's part of what happened on the call. There was more, but I'm gonna start with that.

WHAT HAPPENED WAS we simply had an honest conversation where I once again proved how well I understand her, and she appeared open to understanding me.

SO WHAT THAT MEANS IS the lines of communication are still open, and we are both becoming more attuned to each other's feelings.

NOW WHAT am I going to do with that?

I'm going to totally relax, get back to taking care of myself, eating well, exercising well, following my routine, doing my work, breathing well and enjoying myself until I hear from her again.

Bonus item.

Somehow, I got her to think about sending me a special picture of herself that I know will make her feel really sexy if she does it.

When I asked, she texted back:

"Not sure maybe it really won't hurt anything."

So now I'll just patiently wait and we'll see what happens next.


Good DBing, Mike.
Jump up and give me a personal high-5.