Her complaints from what I've gathered: That I never focused on her, she always came second. We didn't do enough things together. I kept her from being with her friends, and made her feel bad about going out. That I've controlled her.
What I think she found in the other guys?: They spent recreational time together. She could do whatever she wanted.
I think that spending fun time together, is a HUGE reason we are where we are. I ignored her for a game, and our relationship fell apart.
Well, as I was typing this saying what I thought she felt, I just went ahead and asked her. Here is her exact response:
i don't like that all of the important decisions for my life in the last 4 years have been dictated to me - I HAVE TO move because "I'm married" I HAVE TO buy a house, because that's what married people do, I HAVE TO give you half my paycheck... i'm tired of doing things because other people want me to i just want to be my own person for a while... that may sound selfish to you, and you'd be right, it is. but you know what, i'm ok with being selfish for once
And regarding me: i don't like how skinny you are, i don't like how you force your opinions on people, i hate that you always feel you're justified in everything you do i hate how mean you were to my friends, i hate how you always act superior to everyone else
