DNO, My W continued her venting into the next day, our cooking day together. I hung in there with her and allowed her to vent. I worked at not defending myself, and disagreed with her when she accused me of lying or being passive-aggressive. She held tight onto her viewpoints. I xplained my behavior and reactions to her telling her how I was feeling at the time. She didn't acknowledge my viewpoints, but it felt right to handle a difficult conversation in a nonreactive manner, that didn't add further injury.
She finally disclosed that her feelings were hurt that people were being indifferent to her at the dance convention. She had hopes of connecting to people. In my opinion, these people didn't treat us any different than they do in our hometown. It took her a day to disclose this to me. I didn't know. She never gave me a chance to help her with this until a day later. She was looking for kindness from me, but instead saw me as another person rejecting her and disappointing her.
There was a time during the day, when the venting was repeating itself. I excused myself, and took the dog for a walk.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
