Question about the Men that left

[Queen_of_Swords]

I already see what you're talking about LauraOh, and I thank you for elaborating on what you've learned. I see a lot of those processes in my self.

Often it's an uphill climb. I really miss my H in some ways. alothough my day to day life hasn't changed all that much without him.
In other ways I don't know why I put up with the level of neglect from him that I did. I often wonder lately, if I was loved, or just convienent.

Well that's not true, I do know why I put up with neglect. I was neglected by my Dad, it's what I knew, it was what was familiar, it was "normal".

Drawing appropriate boundaries and getting my needs met ( not accepting neglect as "normal") is going to be the real challenge for me. I have to have an in your bones understanding of what love/attention looks like for my brain to understand and apply so I don't allow myself to be mistreated in that way again.

As for the wild child...well she's really naughty!