Sorry for my disappearing act this weekend. I am so sorry, I know that this is quite the roller coaster ride.
I agree that keeping things private at work is of paramount importance. I made the same decision and kept my circle of people who knew of my situation as small as possible. It gave me more control over my emotions.
Tell me more about this divorcecare thing. Had she actually visited the website? They seem very pro-marriage to me so yes, I would agree that this is positive. You have to let this play out, though. When do the papers need to be back at the lawyer's office?