I just found out today that my W took off her rings...sad day for me.
I then told her that if she isn't going to wear them, then she doesn't deserve to have them. I asked her to give them to me, and that I hope some day she deserves to wear them again.
For now obviously the answer is A, but I imagine as time goes on and nothing changes to bring us back together I'll probably get them appraised and then possibly sell them and take my girls on a trip or something.
That won't happen for a long time...no matter what the outcome of my current sitch.
SIC
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
As much as I can not stand my H, I am keeping my ring. I have two sets. One that was given to me by my grandparents, so of course I am keeping them. And one ring given to me by H. I will keep it. One day I will give it to my D7. Even though the M has ended poorly, when H gave me the ring we were happy. I will let her decide if she wants it when she is old enough.
Hope you are doing okay Alamo. I know things are really hard right now. Don't forget that we are all here for you.
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
My wife's rings have not been on her fingers even before she announced separation. That should've been another obvious sign for me there that things were going south, right? No, I was too caught up with my own world to take care of my wife. Oftentimes, I wish I could have that time back.
My W is not wearing her ring. I had a period where I was not wearing mine, I put it back on. My W noticed when I put it back on, she did not say anything, but I caught her looking.
I don't know if I will ask for the ring back, not now anyways.
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Ever since my wife took them off before the separation, her rings have sat in a small sauce bowl in the corner of our kitchen counter gathering dust. Well, I've cleaned them a few times (because I'm sentimental, and thought they should look nice when my wife decides she wants to wear the again), but they've been mostly neglected. I'm quite sure my wife hasn't even bothered with them, not even a glance. And they're beautiful rings too.
As much as I can not stand my H, I am keeping my ring. I have two sets. One that was given to me by my grandparents, so of course I am keeping them. And one ring given to me by H. I will keep it. One day I will give it to my D7. Even though the M has ended poorly, when H gave me the ring we were happy. I will let her decide if she wants it when she is old enough.
Hope you are doing okay Alamo. I know things are really hard right now. Don't forget that we are all here for you.
Hey Wanda...I haven't stopped crying since she broke the news of the move and our subsequent discussion about our son's future. I don't think I've cried this hard and loud ever. Moving has never been pleasant for a sentimental guy like me, especially now when it's the person I love the most who's taking herself and everything that ever mattered to me or both of us away.
Sorry you are hurting Alamo. I move a lot being in the military...and definitely understand getting sentimental about it. Keep fighting the good fight
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
Sorry you are hurting Alamo. I move a lot being in the military...and definitely understand getting sentimental about it. Keep fighting the good fight
Thanks bro. It's hitting me too hard because my wife and my son, and her aunt and grandma in Los Angeles, were my family. And if things don't turn around within the next year, my only family will be my sister and bro-in-law in Dallas. That's it. I already feel the loneliness creeping in. I bet you job puts you in situations like this too, Navy Guy.
I haven't quite decided what to do with mine. My H.s is still with me, he seldom wore it with working out...hurt him he said. I may pawn mine, or I may resize them and wear them on my other hand. Nothing is decided for me. For now, they're in a safe place.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
