Do I "help her along" so we can have some separation ?
Well, some don't like this particular technique, but I think it's very effective. But, you need to be willing to set her free or it doesn't work. You won't stay detached otherwise. If you are able to turn loose, then pack her up and send her on her way. Personally, I would not give her money, find her a place,etc. I would not make it easy for her to live S, but yes, I'd help her pack.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
