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Obviously I tried to set boundies but that was a waste because he did not follow them and I did not follow through


Boundaries are only a waste when not enforced. When you set a boundary with him.....make darn sure you can back it up.

Tell me, are you cooking his meals, washing his clothes, getting the groceries, running errands, etc.?

In the other thread, you talked about his depression. Did he stay on the meds?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!