Not Sure Which Way to Go

[downandoutintn]

Thanks again Sandi for stopping by. I have seen a lot of posts from you on other threads. I like that you give the 2x4 when needed. Please feel free to stop by and hand them out when I need them.

The hardest thing to realize through all of this was that I can't be her friend through all of this if this is not what I want. The more I think about it; I realize we don't have to be best friends to help our kids along through life, only friendly. This whole time I have been trying to be her friend and until gr8 said that I didn't realize what I was doing. I thought I was doing what was right for my kids and all it was doing was killing their Dad emotionally. I am starting to reach a higher ground where I really don't care if she comes or goes. It is really amazing how things change so quickly when you understand your failures and faults.

Maybe one day I can be her friend when there is no emotions there for me. Right now I am having to support myself about her. How can I support her and give her good advice when I am the problem. That would be a little biased I think.