Not Counting Chickens Yet...

[hope2011]

All that's going around here with H, the move, and the boys I've had no time to get on here and catch up. Hoping things will slow down soon. I have a lot of BITS to catch up on, sorry guys.


The move went ok. H actually showed up to help after all. He was pleasant and helpful. The boys mom and stepdad didn't leave until were done afterall.

So here's what's going on with the XW. Her mom died last week. She hadn't talked to her in 5 yrs, wasn't even told by her dad or brother. Her uncle called the next day. Of course she's a wreck. She has a very good H though. They also have a 4 year old. The boys never really knew their grandmother so they aren't that upset. They are more worried about baseball. My H on the other hand went from so concerned about her that he tried to ditch helping me move to angry he's losing his week with the boys because of the funeral, etc. He won't help find their clothes for the funeral or drive to the funeral to show respect. He's on good terms with XW, the boys have never dealt with death or a funeral before. But he's going to the visitation tonight. The boys won't be there. Wearing khakis and a baby blue shirt instead of black. Told me it would be inappropriate for me to go.

Anyone else smell a rat?

So I'm going anyway. 2 hour drive so he can walk in for 10 minutes without me. But at least I will know he's there.

What's the right thing to do? Be at the funeral for his kids. So what its 4 hrs away. Put the boys first. Not the easy way out, dressed innappropriately, going only because he's nosey to see the x-inlaws he hasn't seen in 10 yrs. He had no relationship with the woman who died, he would make fun of her.

Its getting harder and harder to respect a man who doesn't make decisions based on right and wrong but what he wants and to heck with others

Other than all that, he's alternating overly happy and snappy. My guard is up but I'm still trying to DB. In response to what you guys said about shocking him - I don't think he would care if I walked out except for any inconvenience it may cause him. He couldn't get much more selfish or self-absorbed. He has lost all his friends, the boys respect, and his wife is doubting he has a soul or a heart. He needs to find Jesus.

I need patience.