I'm sure she has told him all the ways I have done her wrong and that dink is agreeing with her and saying "how could anyone do that to you, I never would.
Maybe, but in my EA very few words about my M was spoken. I didn't want to think about it and it sure wasn't what OM was seeking.
It's been asked by others and I think it is a point of reference for some: "Do you really want to live with a spouse that doesn't love you?"
I believe in dropping the rope....or setting them free, whatever you want to call it. It is all about attitude. Until a LBS can reach that place, he doesn't win anything, except misery.
What happens if that proverbial rope is not only tied to the spouse, but that spouse has tied the same rope around your children?