Shaves I know what you mean about leaving your kids out of the discussion with your WAW. If you try to use them to as a valid reason to work on the marriage, it will inevitably just make the WAW madder bc they can see right through you. They know you are trying to use them to your benefit. I believe this also helps the WAW be more sure of there decision to leave bc they feel that if all you have left keeping you together is the kids, then the M is dead. I learned that the hard way last year when we went through a seperation but stayed living together. We did get back together in july but I feel I became complacent and stopped giving the marriage the jump start it needed. I was afraid of our issues and thought that if we just ignored them they would go away. WRONG!!! I so wish I would have known about DR then. I feel confident that I wouldn't be here now.
Oh man, could this be why my wife is doing what she's doing? Every time I suggest or firmly insist something in the interest of my son, she gets really irate and says that I'm still trying to control her. Which is why she's hastened to move out of our home this Saturday and taking our son with her.
