I am ecstatic to see her, but Sandi suggests stick to my guns which I have so far. She asked me a question, " you seem Ansy". I wasn't sure where to go with it. Now she is taking bath. What should I say when she comes down after bath?
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Don't worry about what to say. If she says something you don't know how to answer (like the other comment she made), just shake your head and say that you're fine. Don't let her pull you into a discussion you don't need or want right now. If necessary, change the subject to what she did on her trip.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, see this is were she gets me, she asks me a question knowing full good and well I want to tel her how I still feel and that I still want her back... I will not fall into the trap tonight. another night perhaps...
Sandi, do you think this was her way of trying to bring it up without being the one to "start" the Relationship talk? Curious what you think?
Sandi, do you think this was her way of trying to bring it up without being the one to "start" the Relationship talk? Curious what you think?
Well, it certainly could be an avenue to that subject and that's why you have to stay focused and not get off into how you feel about her.
It would be better for the WAW to wonder if you still loved her, instead of having be reassured by you. Remember, when you pull back.....it pulls her inward.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, so with her being gone all weekend and then asking me that question "you seem ansy" could have been her way of needing me to make her feel needed....? That make sense?
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Sandi, so with her being gone all weekend and then asking me that question "you seem ansy" could have been her way of needing me to make her feel needed....?
No, I don't mean that she wanted to feel needed. A WAW doesn't want to hear that from the LBH. I just meant that she could have easily used your answer to start a R talk that would not have ended well.
I know that a lot of women use questions to goad an unsuspecting man into a discussion he would not originally want.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, gotcha, she came down after bath and said goodnight. I am going up after news here in 15 mins. I just heard her still awake. I guess I will head up and try to crash without drama.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
