Recovering after a same sex affair

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I took care of my baby boy last night. I get a text from W during his bedtime routine asking if it would be possible if I could take the morning off of work and get my son setup on his first day of day care.

After a weekend where W was grilled by her parents for two days, had to pick up and organize the thousand things the day care requires, and the anticipation of her first day back at work on Tuesday, I know my wife is extremely overwhelmed. I told her yes, because I think it was important for me to be there for my boy, but I will admit that I also did it for her support.

She came by at about 7 this morning, but I had been up since 6 with a wide awake six month old. We gathered his things and packed the cars. Drove down to day care. we spent a few hours there while we got his things setup and had a chance to feel out the environment and play a little. While filling out the forms, the day care person noticed Kathleen had left her address blank while mine was completed. She said that she was not sure, as it might be changing soon. They just told her to call back in when she had it. My stomach dropped again during that moment, and I may have even closed my eyes for a minute. S went down for a nap, and we decided to leave. W was having separation issues and figured it would be easier to leave while he was napping than having to tell him goodbye. On the way out, W said she noticed my reaction to the blank address space. I told her that I was fine. She tried to explain it again and asked why I had my reaction. I told her that it was just another reality check, but I supported her need for space and was going to be just fine.

We then went out to lunch together. It was nice. She has to go by the school district office to fill out more paperwork to start work tomorrow. I had to go back to the house and back to work.

On the way home, she sent me a funny text asking why I didn't tell her that she had a noodle stuck to her shirt when she left. I responded that I figured she might want to share her lunch with the kind folks at the school district office. We both laughed.

Going into my therapy tonight. I want to ask him more about splitting accounts completely if she decides that she wants to move out and split daycare costs. I don't think she would fight me on that. She has recently been trying to split meal costs when we go out with a little money her father gave her. I am having more trouble telling her that in addition to that, I think we should take her off my cell phone and car insurance plans. Both bills that I pay for her. I have been told I should by Figg and my family. Let her feel what the choices she is making really mean. In all honesty, she is not going to be able to afford living on her own. We stretched by on my solo income, and I make twice she does.

If I am supporting her moving out to get space, but make it impossible for her to do it financially, am I really being supportive of her need for space? Thoughts?