good to see progress Bolt. I'm of the opinion that sometiems fights/talks can be beneficial. Sounds like yours was.

"Turning the corner."

Was that the theme this weekend? I'll get to it in a bit.

Friday night my W and I get into yet another fight/discussion about the speed of things. I swear I am great at dishing advice, but horrible at taking it. The basic argument is that I want to move too fast and when I complain about her lack of affection it tells my wife that I don't appreciate the baby steps she's taken. (and they are baby steps - like 1 kiss in 7 weeks, she touched my arm a couple times, etc.) I try to explain that is not the case.

So goes on about how good we are doing (in spite of all the s**t we've been through the last year, this is the last real issue now), how much she likes me as a friend, says that I'm not the only one who misses that stuff, etc., and says stuff like "you are the guy I love." (for some reason she has a mental block on saying ILY)

So it kinda peters out and she goes to bed. I have a thought and send her an email. Basically, it outlined the way her baby steps have actually help me in ways she probably didn't think about. Like I feel we are 100% partners with respect to the kids, I am so much better about giving her alone time, I am really supportive of her work, etc. and I am positive about our future

I think she really needed me to acknowledge her work and I showed her exactly how.She never really mentioned the email or talked abut it. But I was just glad to have sent it.

So weekend was great. We took the kids swimming both days (W looked great in her bikini) Overall a good time.

So she goes to bed last night and I send her a txt say sorry if wasn't super responsive in the evening, but I was tired on Sunday. (I ran 17 miles in the morning In 17 Degree weather before going swimming.) And I said I had a really nice time this weekend.

She text me back this. "I had a really good time too. I hope we are turning a corner here...I just really want to get back to just being us, minus the bad habits we had gotten into over the years." (I told you I'd get to it)

Reading that again makes me feel great. I not so stupid as to think everything is fixed, but I feel good about things.

Man, I put a long tail on that kite.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.