He refuses to go to the doctor, but my suspision is low testosterone too. I have researched the subject and he falls in MANY of the causes for low testosterone: smoking too much, not eating enough, depression, and some others. Nothing I can do, I have fought and pleaded with him for almost 3 years now about the Doctor with zero success.
About the atractiveness...... man! that makes me so mad. I am only chubby, not fat, besides I am freaking beautiful!! and ex beauty queen for pete's sake! I am on a diet an exercise program now, so I can again look by best, but with a pretty big dose of resentment. I am doing it for myself too, but I would be a lier if I said that my main motivator is NOT this f#$*&@ situation, because it is.
I may change my tone if things start getting better, but I hope I can live with all the horrible things he has said to me. There have been so many disapointments in this marriage than I don't know what will happen.
Thank you CeMar for your words, at least you understand how much life stinks from this side of the fence.