Living a Country Song - Part II

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Hey gr8, appreciate the reply, I will try to answer some of your questions...

So, what are you doing that is attractive to your W?
My 180's have been working out, cutting way back on the drinking and getting out more. I know these things are important to her, but even more importantly, these are things I have wanted to do, and I am feeling better about myself doing them. The rut I was in also led to some depression issues. These things have helped that a lot, and I know my W has noticed how happy I have been lately. Like I mentioned a few posts back, my sense of humor was always an attraction for my W, and it is also just part of me and something I enjoy and makes me feel good. I have been keeping that up and giving her glimpses of that when appropriate.

Being mysterious works, how can you be mystrious?
Like I mentioned, I am initiating NO contact, and I am also ignoring certain text messages and giving others a decent amount of time before replying. This has led to increased questions on her part. I plan on continuing this and phasing it out even further. Increasing the time before I reply and ignoring more when the questions do not have to do with our D.

Proving to her you are the best option is essential. If she can't see that then it's out to you NOT to be an option for her.
I agree, and I am moving in that direction. I know many peoples opinion here is I am staying too much of a friend, but, that is not my intention. Like I said, I am not the one initiating contact, and I am working on limiting replies only to matters of our D. I am hesitant to abruptly start ignoring EVERY message she sends me. I do not see that as an appropriate way to handle this. I think a more slower transition into this will work better for me.

I have never seen a LBS win back his WAW be letting an affair fizzle out.
Well, I cannot imagine winning anyone back without it. I see your point that my actions can perhaps encorage it to happen, or speed up the process, but mostly this is up to her.

Are you a country music fan?
there so many songs that fit our sitch.
I am, but not to the extent perhaps my name implies. I enjoy the out "outlaw" group. Willie, Waylon, Johnny, Merle, etc. I grew up with it and still enjoy it. It is weird, but I have listened to that stuff quite a bit lately. People might think listening to all of those songs about heartbreak to be depressing, but for some reason it cheers me up!!! I am also a big fan of many type of music, a lot of rock, punk, post-punk, jazz, folk, almost everything. Music is a hobby of mine, I am a vinyl guy and love kicking back with a record on.