Also--really listening. I had to learn to shut up to really listen. And a good deal of what he had to say hurt, things about me he didn't like. I waited until another time to continue the conversation and share what I didn't like about him. That was different than when we used to argue before, because I'd just blast at the same time. We each heard each other pretty well. It was more like we were speaking right out of our hearts than at each other.

Making some of those changes is harder than others and takes longer, but we both feel more open and accepting knowing the other person is really caring and trying. The items themselves, are not as important as the actual love and trying.

sg
Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001