Piecing is almost harder than before...

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Bolt, one of the major issues for my W and I was that she felt I treated her as a sexual object by asking her to do things or wear things or go places that she wasn't comfortable with. She told me these things over the years, but did them any way and frequently gave me mixed messages (like "yes, that was more fun than I thought", etc). I choose to hear the side of the messages I wanted to hear and ignored the rest.

Now, however, she is very clear on these issues.

I think that since that was one of the major issues, the physical has to be completely in her control until she is comfortable.