Rolling with the punches

[Redo]

Right now everytime i talk to her, I get emotionally stirred.

why?

[I dont know. Maybe i have not yet recovered from the whole trauma. Maybe it is because the discussion is always about the divorce details and nothing else(like daughter)]

Nope, I am not going with a lawyer. I am discussing the details with her and not her lawyer. If we could live 11 years together then i thought that we should be able to discuss our details and agree on what is fair for both of us.

huge mistake. you need to get yourself a lawyer and protect yourself financially. if you think that working it out between the two of you is easy .. think again.

[I agree. I might be digging a hole for myself here. But i'd like to try. I might be talking crazy here, but to be honest, if in the process if she gets more financially then so be it. I know i have the capacity to get back on my 2 feet again]

marriage is about love. divorce is about money.

Hope that i'll develop the fortitude and emotional maturity to entice her back into my life.

i wouldn't bet money on that.
if what you are doing is to entice your wife back into your life, then you are going about db-ing completely wrong. it is no wonder there is no progress.

the purpose needs to be about you. doing what works for you. and if someone wants to be a part of that, they need to earn their way in because you deserve better than that.

[You are absolutely right about this. I know i have been reading about the DB principles and stuff, but i am sure i am straying off the path quite a bit. I think one of these days i need a session with one of the coaches so i can find my path back]

Thanks!!