Divorce or Hope?

[Firstlove]

Nine
I wish you well in all your hopes and dreams my man, I truly do. I too never want to give up, and never will. I am not talking about "giving up" and I don't think that one spouse having an affair is THE nail in the proverbial marriage coffin - that is not my point. My point is the "continuation" of the affair - that is something completely different than "having had" an affair.

As Smokey the Bear so wisely said those many years ago "Only You can prevent Forest Fires", and Only You know the full circumstances of your sitch - ours are only comments of encouragement and well wishes to you. I only know this, I love my wife more than I ever knew imaginable, and she had an affair that literally ripped my very heart out and stomped on it. I still love her - actually I believe I love her more now than I ever have - so the affair does not kill the love.

I am doing DB every single hour of every single day and my heart's desire is that we will be able to build a marriage based upon God's love and His principals and live like we never have before in an abundant loving relationship - that is my hope and my prayer. I am on that path and will stay on that path. The ONLY thing that would get me off that path and move towards divorce, which I believe God hates - is if she continued to see the OM - that would be something that I would not, and could not, stand for. It would be over the day that happened here. That is just my situation, I am not suggesting that should be yours, merely reflecting on what mine is.

I wish you nothing but success and abundance Nine - it is not an easy road that any of us are on, not easy whatsoever.