Shine on you crazy diamond II

[ninelives]

Man FOBD, My heart really goes out to you. AT what point does DBing become something that will not work? While she is emersed in her affair, I dont know how anything can work. She is being poisoned by the OM and Im sure she talks about the awful things you have done in the past in her opinion and Im sure he does everything to make sure he doesnt do that. He has the blueprint to make her happy for now.

I guess what im saying is while she is still in the affair, the chances for getting her back are zero imho. The affair has to fizzle before you have a chance. OM=No marriage.

You know what you have to do. WE all do in these situations.
We have to move on and put hope in a box and store it on a shelf and only bring it down when and IF, they come around.

There are no guarantees and the time line is vague to be sure.

I wish I could be more positive for you , sometimes a hard dose of reality, no matter how much it hurts, is better.

My Therapists is starting to make me face the fact that my marriage is probably over. At least for NOw and if she ever does change her mind, I need to be healthy to make a wise decision. There may be way too much damage to start again but there are people that say NEVER SAY NEVER. Its really up to you and her in the end and to hell with what everybody else says.

Hang IN there FOBD

BETTER times ahead. They have to be because these are the worst days of our lives.

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PS. My brother once told me that I survived life before I met my wife. Certainly I can survive life and flourish without her.
She does not define who I am as a person.