Not Sure Which Way to Go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I am moving, maybe slowly, as I catch on to all of this and how

I should play my cards. Sometimes you might hold a pair of 2s. Sometime you might play them and sometimes you might fold them but it really depends on who is sitting across the table across from you as to how you play your cards. I am beginning to see that all I am going to be dealt with her is 2's. I am trying to find for myself what will give me Aces or Kings so I can have a better chance of winning every hand. That might be her once she decides what she wants in life or that maybe someone else but right now I am taking what is dealt to me and turning that into the best hand I can get.

The cards in you hand don't matter. IT'S WHAT THE OTHER PERSON PERCEIVES YOU HAVE THAT COUNTS!

One other question. Are you saying I should never talk to her at all unless it is about the kids? If that is the case then how would I ever know that she is trying to test the water? Or is it something that I give it a while and she will find a way to talk to me?

What's there to talk about?
Talk is so cheap, actions are the key to recovery. If she calls and the kids aren'nt in the room, twos things , 1 pick up and find the kids w/o talking to her or 2 let it goto VM and then have the kids call her back.

You'll know when/if she's ready to R talk when she WANTS to talk to about R and is very sincere. SHe'll make it known to you too.


Sounds to me you're afraid to be alone. Start doing things by yourself, lunch, movies gym. Anything.


As for me, I do have a feeling my W will come back a second time. I am in a great place again. She will have to prove to me she wants to be with me. I am not settling for anything less than 110% from her.

She knows exactly how I feel/felt and I made it clear to her what needs to be done for me even to consider her being a part of my life.

If she can't or won;t do what's needed that's OK and it's her decision. I know there are plenty of women out there that would love to go out with me.

gr8