Good advice from you to Nine. Nine, I don't mean to be rude here pal, but I do NOT get it. I am reeling from the pain of my wife's PA that I caught her in and we have been separated now for 5 months - she lives in another house. We talk about stuff and business, but NEVER about our R or the PA, she simply refuses to talk even one word about our R or a future, she cannot speak of it. So I give her space, for now, to try and figure out what she wants to do with her life and if that life includes a R with me. These are very VERY hard times for me, and I am all about DB and hate the concept of divorce, hate it.
That said, for me, if my W even had one contact with the OM, and I mean even one, the divorce would be on full steam and I would never retract from that. Knowing that my W slept with OM was painful enough - I don't know how anyone could stand for it knowing that your wife IS currently sleeping with another man -I don't get it. That is something I could never do in a billion years.
Just saying - for me, I could never stand for that.
M-58 W-56 Married 33 years BOMB -Sept/10 Separated 8 months
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