Wow Mish, it really strikes me how you assume the worst and kind of write Gabe off.. yet he keeps persistently chipping away at that negative view...

"Oh well.......a long, long time ago he used up all his romantic gestures while we were dating and there have been none ever since. Why do I hope for more than this? Again....my STUPID, ROMANTIC HEART! GAG! Is there some sort of 'ectomy' to get rid of that part of it?"

Then...

".........he got me 4 hand dipped chocolate covered strawberries and a card and wrote a super sweet sentiment in it. HOLY COW! Knock me over with a feather!"

WOW WOW WOW! Instead of creeping around and trying not to bug, or spook him, maybe you should practise extreme forgiveness?.. the more love and trust you throw at him, the more puffed up and loving he may feel and you may find he reciprocates more and more.

Heck it worked for me.. I showered H in love, forgiveness and acceptance when we got back together and it gave him the confidence and faith that I wasnt 'holding it against him' to truly express his love for me back.

xx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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