Divorce or Hope?

[Denver_2010]

I am so confused. Obviously their relationship must end if there is ever to be hope for us again. Do i have the stones to wait it out while life passes by?

Hi 9.

First and foremost, you need to work on detaching... from the situation with your W. This will allow you to regain your balance emotionally so that you can think and make decisions with a clear head.

Second... have you read much on mid life crisis (MLC)? I would go over to that forum and do some reading... maybe even post your sitch there. Your sitch may fall under that more than it does a typical WAS scenario... You know the details, so only you can really make that call. I'm just going by what you have written here.

Ok... do you have the stones to wait this out? A question that none of us here, except for you, can answer 9. YOU control only you... not your W or anyone else... whether or not you can, or WANT to wait out your W's A is a call that only you can make.

Will the affair last? Who knows. I've read that most A's typically burn out within 6 months... but, even if true, that is only 'most'... again, no way to answer this question.

You have to decide what YOU want to do here 9. You say that you want your M even now... why?

Why does 9 still want his M after everything that has happened?


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