FOBD I'm going to share something here that may have resonance for you. At the begining of my particular ordeal with my H, and after reading DB, I thought the principles were nucking futz. Here I was a woman that had seen her marriage disintegrate due to lack of communication, and this was suggesting I go dark, ignore the whole situation GAL ( in my POV of the time) and STOP communicating.
Well I tried more communication. Did it work? Absofrickinglutely NOT.
Did I then try going slowly dim? Yes I did after first trying everything chaotically to get a response, any response. Am I seeing little flickers of interest here and there now after doing things in a consistent manner in going dim? Yup.
Take heart darlin', you're having one of those days right now. Tomorrow can be different. You have been an inspiration to us. Now it's our turn.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
