Every poster here has heard some variation of all the same things ...
I'm done. I don't love you, and I don't think I ever did. It's all your fault. If you had ... It won't matter what you do/say, it's too late. I never should have married you. You never ... You always ... I need to be free. I need space. I'm never coming back.
... and the list goes on ...
Yes that's very true.
My point here, is that if Jack, HB, Butterflymom, Coach, imLin, BND or Lotus, to name a few (not to mention the entire community on the piecing board), had made their decisions based on the words they were hearing from their WAS/MLCers they would have had much different outcomes.
That too is true.
Just because he says it, doesn’t make it your truth. It doesn’t even necessarily make it his truth for more than the moment he says it in. And yes, I know you’ve been hearing it for years. Actually I haven't heard it for years. It was more his parting shot, but I get you.
Running out to replace H makes the new R about the R not about the person you are with. Not entirely sure what you mean here. Do you mean that I wouldn't value the person, just the having of a relationship - any relationship?
If I promised you that if you were patient your marriage would be restored and, with work, be better than ever ... would you be interested? Of course I can't make those promises ... but your answers should tell you something.
Point taken, thanks for the 2X4 .
My religious g/f says that God can be our father and our husband in times of need. So far.....um can't say I have experienced that.
Peace PEI
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
Actually I haven't heard it for years. It was more his parting shot, but I get you.