fobd, I totally understand you're feelings. It's tough to be there for sure.

Is there anyway to keep you mind MOSTLY off the sitch? I know that's about nearly impossible but the more you simply don't think about it, the better it will be.

I'm not saying ignore it or try to make it go away - that's where the numbness comes in. I guess what I'm saying is to truly GAL so you can recharge those batteries.

after that, you (and her) may be in a better place so you can lay things out.

I honestly wouldn't apologize just yet. Wait to get some good "normal" conversations. Then, you'll know it, when the time is right, to start in on the apologies. Take that slow though. She won't hear it when you're angry.


m 40
w 38
married 15
together 18
d11, d8
bomb 12/19/10
2nd bomb 3/30/11
COMPLETELY DONE